Is Self-Distraction a Form of Resistance?
When it comes to self care and development? On my journey to wellbeing I have noticed that my good intentions rarely materialise because I decide other activities are more important. For example spending an hour in the morning just on myself doing things for my own benefit such as a bit of exercise, meditation, reading or writing journals, quite frequently ...
Self-Limiting Beliefs
Self-limiting beliefs are the negative perceptions we have about ourselves that hold us back from succeeding in life because we don’t believe we can achieve what we desire. The things we repeatedly think and say leave an imprint on our subconscious mind that affect the way we behave. Also, the negative experiences we have had, can lead us to expect ...
What’s Love got to do with it?
What is Love and Why is Self-Love Important? You’ve probably heard the phrase ‘Love makes the world go round’. But have you ever paused to consider what is love and why does it matter? More importantly, why is self-love so essential to our wellbeing and relationships? What is Love? “Love” is a complex and multifaceted emotion, often described as a ...
Expectations & Limitations
Overcoming negative expectations Do you find yourself imagining the worst case scenario for an upcoming situation or event? Expecting the worst, also known as negative thinking can be influenced by various factors, including past experiences, upbringing, personality traits, and social influences. Here are some reasons why people might tend to expect the worst: Self-Protection: Some people may expect the worst ...
The Illusion of Perfection
I used to think of myself as a perfectionist. I strived to do everything right. I spent so much time paying attention to details that no one else would notice, but I would gain satisfaction from. But the truth is there, was no reward and the satisfaction I felt was short lived as I still felt unfulfilled. In my work ...
Mindfulness and Living in the Present
You might have heard these terms before, but what do they really mean? And why are they important for your well-being? What is Mindfulness? Mindfulness is the practice of paying attention to your thoughts, feelings, sensations and surroundings in the present moment, without judging them as good or bad. It’s a way of being aware of what’s happening inside and ...
STRAYING OFF THE WELLBEING PATH
When it comes to our wellbeing journey, we often start off with great enthusiasm and motivation. We set goals, make plans, and are enthusiastic about the positive changes we are about to make. However, as time passes, it can become challenging to maintain that same level of enthusiasm and commitment. We may encounter obstacles, face setbacks, or simply struggle to ...
ACCEPTANCE IS BETTER THAN IDENTIFYING
Why we should not identify with negative feelings and situations Our emotions can be incredibly powerful and sometimes overwhelming, influencing our thoughts, behaviours, and even our reality. However, we have the power to control our emotions and not let them define our reality. Identifying with negative feelings, such as anger, anxiety, or sadness, can be a natural response to difficult ...
THE POWER OF SURRENDERING
I’ve had a few challenges over the past few months: Problems with inadequate hot water system and waiting for new heating system to be installed. Therefore I couldn’t have my relaxing hot baths to help with fibromyalgia pain and have to boil a kettle to wash greasy dishes. I had a fall and injured my right shoulder which is still ...
The Most Important Relationship
When we think about relationships we mostly think externally about how we relate to others and forget the one we should be focussing on first: Your Relationship with Yourself Having a healthy relationship with yourself is essential for overall well-being and happiness. Many of us spend a lot of time focusing on our relationships with others, whether it be romantic ...